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How to Ask for a Prenuptial Agreement

You are over the moon in love and can’t wait to get married. In fact, the date is getting closer. The venue has been picked out. The flowers have been arranged. The bridesmaid dresses have been ordered. And a wedding photographer has been chosen. However, there is something hovering over you that you are struggling to finalize before the wedding and that is a prenuptial agreement.

A prenuptial agreement has such a negative connotation associated with it. If you ask for one, it’s almost as if you are demonized and that this somehow reflects on the love you have for the other person. However, there’s nothing wrong with being realistic, and since half of all marriages in the United States end in divorce, it’s best to prepare for the worst case scenario.

AF Family law is a divorce and family law firm in the Sacramento area. We specialize in all things related to divorce, such as child custody, alimony, and prenuptial agreements. Below, we’ll offer up tips on how to ask for a prenuptial agreement from your fiancé. Contact us today for a consultation!


Don't Make Any Demands

If you approach your prenup as a conversation, instead of a demand, you are much less likely to hurt your fiancé's feelings and/or get in a fight. Make the conversation as light as possible, and choose the right time as well, perhaps over a quiet dinner out together instead of at an appointment with the wedding caterer. Then, truly listen to your fiancé and what they say. You may be surprised; he or she may want one, too!

Talk About Your Reasons

Most of the time, if you explain your reasoning for a prenup, your fiancé can better understand you. If you have real fears, say so. For instance, if your parents had a messy divorce, say that you don’t want that to happen in your marriage. If you do have assets you are bringing to the marriage to protect, say that as well. Honesty is always the best policy when it comes to touchy subjects.

Try to Remain Emotionless

Money is always a hard topic to broach, mainly because without it, we can’t survive. Future earnings will be the same way. You’ll want to be as diplomatic as possible, emphasizing the positive aspects of prenups. For example, a prenuptial agreement benefits the lower-earning spouse as well if written properly. You can suggest that both of you make an appointment with a top-notch divorce and family law team such as AF Law in Sacramento to discuss your options and write up an equitable prenup agreement that you both can be happy with.

The Sooner, The Better

Bringing up a prenuptial agreement a week before you are to walk down the aisle probably won’t go over so well. As soon as the ring has been placed on the finger and you are officially engaged, the prenup conversation should be one of the first things you do. This gives your fiancé time to adjust to the idea, and it gives you both time to write a great prenup agreement that both of you can be happy with. Some experts suggest that if you bring up the idea of a prenup before you are even engaged that this will give you a better idea of their feelings on the matter.


There is nothing wrong with being prudent in today’s world, and if you are entering into a marriage with significant assets, you need to protect those in case a divorce does occur on down the road. No one can predict the future, which is why prenuptial agreements exist. You are hedging your bet in case the marriage of your dreams does not work out.

The team at AF Law near Sacramento can help. We handle all issues related to divorce and family law, and we can help you write up your prenuptial agreement and make the necessary tweaks to ensure everyone is satisfied. Then you can rest easy knowing your assets are protected.

At the end of the day, your fiancé is the person you have chosen to spend the rest of your life with. While you hope and pray that you will never have to use your prenup agreement, having one can bring you peace of mind. Contact us today to get started!